Parenting, Children, Teens, and Chores

Should your child or teenager have chores? This topic is often a source of disagreement and conflict between parents. Many parents feel that the child’s job is school. Other parents feel that kids should have chores to help out in the household. I generally recommend that all children and adolescents have some responsibility around the house. And I don’t necessariky mean keep their rooms clean. Of course, we would all love it if kids kept their personal space neat and clean, but I am more interested in general chores around the house. What I am completely against is placing full pet care responsibility on a child or teen. I have heard way too many times of a neglected yet beloved companion animal who is never walked, misses being fed, litter box is not cleaned, etc. If a parent wants to involve a child in pet care, I strongly recommend they closely supervise the child/teen.

Having chores teaches kids responsibility, privudes then with skills, and makes them less self-centered. It can also be self-esteem enhancing. There is one caveat though: Occasionaly, I meet a parent who expects too much of their kids. Kids should not be expected to take on adult responsibilities nor are they servants.

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The NY Times had a great article on this: Happy Children Do Chores